BITTER GIRLS

There was a time when DC did not contain a girl I’ve sexed. As the years went by and I became more and more filthy, that sub-population has gradually grown. Right now it is a certainty that I will run into one of these girls at least once a month. I know it’s my fault because I keep going to the same places where I met them, but it’s only common pimp sense to return to successful venues.

I used to feel uncomfortable because I didn’t know how to deal with a girl that I probably dumped first. So I would take great steps to avoid them, like hanging out in a different side of the bar or positioning my back to the direction she is facing. But then I asked myself, “Why should I punish myself because I did want I wanted to do?” I started talking to these girls like a normal person and quickly realized that most of them are friendly. They didn’t take the fact that I stopped calling them after sex too personally, most likely because it has happened to them many times before.

But then you have those girls that are just bitter to the core. It’s not that they are unable to get over me, but they are unable to get over the fact that I dumped them. Upon our reunion, they will make snide comments to me while trying to pretend that they want to be friends. They will backturn. They will make fun of girls I’m talking to, and even get their friends to cockblock me and my friends. I don’t take offense to what these girls do, but their actions validate my dump decision. I sleep better at night knowing I did the right thing. While I totally wish them the best, it would be nice if they get off my jock and finally meet a beta who puts up with their bullshit.

20 thoughts on “BITTER GIRLS

  1. gisella

    When will people learn that sex is not a pawn in a game of chess? Sex is not a toy, it’s not just a conquest or a competition, it’s a way of expressing emotion, lust and love. Of course men and women are going to resent each other, and feel insecure and have trouble settling down the way they abuse something that holds such significant value. I’ve never been bitter, resentful or angry towards men, but I have never slept with one for any reason other than love. I watch my best friends struggle with this all the time, and I hurt so much for them, watching them get used and abandoned on a weekly basis, get STDS, and more importantly ruin a part of their soul, they are really wonderful women who have just gone down the wrong path. Your post just makes me sad, that people are willing to give up such a private expression of emotion to some guy they don’t even know in a club.

  2. KassyK

    HAHA-V, I actually saw the shirt as well…and I can imagine some bitter girls would rage…I thought it was funny though and want one…NOW. 🙂

  3. TC the Terrible

    “I?ve never been bitter, resentful or angry towards men, but I have never slept with one for any reason other than love.”

    That sounds a lot like denial.

    “I watch my best friends struggle with this all the time, and I hurt so much for them, watching them get used and abandoned on a weekly basis, get STDS, and more importantly ruin a part of their soul. . .”

    And yet you do nothing for them. What kind of friend are you? Not a very good one I’d bet.

    TC

  4. KassyK

    Hmmm Sally-Yes lets get on that…Maybe one in light blue as well with silver glitter? I think sporting them at the waterfront would be ESPECIALLY intersting…all the Mr. Popped Collars would stare appalled–I love it. :laugh:

  5. gisella

    “And yet you do nothing for them. What kind of friend are you? Not a very good one I?d bet.”

    I can’t be responsible for anyone else’s actions. Sure I have made suggestions to them about the type of guys that would treat them best, but they don’t listen to me, people won’t listen to you until they are ready to make a change, and sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they can start over.

  6. hedonistic

    These bitter ladies have not yet achieved immunity to the “conquest fucker.” They’ll have to learn the hard way.

    That said, I’m secretly relieved when men I’ve sexed and found to be lacking deign not to call.

  7. Aja

    “They didn?t take the fact that I stopped calling them after sex too personally, most likely because it has happened to them many times before.”

    Generally speaking, women may not care if a man doesn’t call because the session was gawd awful or just wasn’t into him so why put any energy into caring.

  8. Sudamericana

    I am really intrigued about the shirt. Give some more details, please… In fact, if it has the sort of message I think it does, the female version could be absolutely perfect for me to use at this point in my life – particularly when I bump into guys who haven’t called me after “that” date and, instead of bitterness, the message I would like to convey is that I could not care less, since after all, I have not called you either, have I?

  9. Sudamericana

    Aja, exactly! Why do men always think that we must be so disappointed cause they did not call… when maybe we are just grateful about it, considering the sometimes less than satisfactory performances? (DCB, I am not implying this last thing about you, I am sure there has to be something good behind your fame and blog persona)

  10. Ayla

    I think the vast majority of women would be cool with seeing a guy who stopped seeing them after sex as long as he was cool about the way he ended things.

    Saying “Thanks for a great time, but you should know that I’m not looking for a relationship with you” or something along those lines is fine. Acting like she doesn’t exist or never existed is immature and disrespectful.

  11. holiday

    Gisella, considering the fact that you married your professor at 19 when you came to America, I think it’s really difficult for you to judge how hard it is to date as a American women in your 20s. Your comments come off as kind of patronizing.

  12. holiday

    btw, I’m not a stalker. She wrote all of that in the “about me” section of her blog last week.

  13. notbittergirl

    The guy called me after my first semi-random hookup–a few dates, semi-nakedness but no sex. I was pissed! I wanted to be the “ender of the things.” That and I never wanted to speak to him again (he annoyed me that much!). My point here is, we don’t always want you to call.

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