Most guys get girls through their social circle or work, places where they have a girls attention whether she likes it or not. Since there will be repeated exposures and conversations, there is no pressure for the guy to quickly get the girls number or ask her out on a date. Now compare this to a guy who meets girls in clubs. He has a short amount of time to make an impression through all the distractions of loud music, alcohol, and friends. In a club I have 5-30 minutes to step it up, as opposed to my social circle where I have almost an unlimited amount of time.
The easiest way to get girls is by having her attention. It’s kind of like falling in love with a song just because you hear it every day (i.e. N’Sync “Bye bye bye”); the familiarity breeds some love before contempt eventually sets in. If you want to have sex with models then you work as a photographer or lighting umbrella holder. If you want to get with drunk party girls then you work at a college bar. With the approach-game-close model, you never really have her attention long enough to create a strong impression. That’s why one-night stands or a couple dates are as far as these meets will go… there’s little substance beneath the physical attraction. Of course there are exceptions, but the stigma of meeting your significant other in a bar isn’t much lower than meeting through the internet.
There has been a few instances where I meet a girl and can immediately tell that she doesn’t like me (hard to believe I know). But after time, if I have to interact with her repeatedly, she starts to warm up until it’s obvious she likes me. This can take a while, almost two years in one instance. Nothing changed in those two years, but the constant exposure of everything that is me eventually grows on a girl. She is like is a loaf of bread sitting on top of the refrigerator, while I am that fungus that somehow gets in, forming a loving symbiosis that lasts until we are both rejected by society in old age.