You meet a girl and get her number. You call her but she doesn’t answer, so you leave a message. Less then 24 hours later, she calls you back when you weren’t at your phone. But she doesn’t leave a message. What do you do?
This is actually a very hard dating question. Other variables such as initial meeting duration length and speed of callback play a factor. This girl probably isn’t big on reciprocity, and wants to make you sweat a little. Chances are she has a lower-back tattoo and would make for an excellent notch.
A man’s options:
1. Don’t call back. This is for the man who, like Robert DeNiro in Heat, is not afraid to lose it all. Chances are the girl won’t call back a second time because she is making the assumption that her phone number is displayed under “Missed Calls”. If you think you are the man who doesn’t need to chase, then this is your option. Don’t worry, there will be another guy who will close her for you. His “I fucked this slut” story will beat out your “I didn’t fuck this slut” story.
2. Call back. If you think your connection is weak, then you may need to call back. Chances are she won’t answer, so you have another decision of whether to leave a message or not. This then goes beyond the scope of this post, with many possible outcomes, like one of those multiple ending books you still read. I can’t approve of this move because it sends the message that you don’t mind putting in more work than her.
3. Text back. Oooh didn’t see that one coming did you. This is where new technology has given us more response possibilities. Texting is in the middle of the above two options, and the road I would suggest guys take in a situation like this. If you have to resort to text game playing then you probably lost anyway, but it’s one of the options where you don’t seem like a little bitch.
What I do: I delete her number off my phone. If she wants to talk to me she has to call back AND leave a message (since I don’t answer calls from unknown numbers). Girls who don’t leave voicemails are always a headache.