WHY MEDIOCRE WOMEN DESIRE HOT MEN

It’s more common to see a hot girl with an ugly guy than the other way around. This is mainly due to the fact that any guy can overcome a dollop of bad genetics with a lot of money and a fancy car. Seeing a hot guy with an ugly girl is so rare that I remember the one instance where I actually witnessed it. It was my junior year in college and I was planning a hot weekend of playing Starcraft on the internet, when I saw a huge pasty girl holding hands with a good looking guy. I noticed that her huge sausage fingers were hiding his hand in a socially unacceptable display of love.

Men have a shallow gene that has been passed on for generations, making looks far more important than any other quality a woman can possess. The best advice I can give a mediocre woman is to go to the gym and do some squats to plump up that ass, because personality is a guy’s number two trait at best. So when a guy says he wants a hot girl, that’s just evolution talking. But when a girl says she wants a hot guy, it is a guarantee that she is mediocre looking.

These mediocre girls rate about a 6-7 out of 10 on the looks scale, and usually grow up with at least one hot friend who gets all the guys. She probably doesn’t have trouble getting guys herself, but she wants that model stud, that one guy who she can show off to her friends. A trophy boyfriend. It doesn’t matter if the guy can has the personality of a rock as long as he is considered hot by today’s societal standards. She’ll introduce her guy to friends and then say, “He’s hot, right?”

If you observe closely, you will notice that hot girls usually go out with average or slightly above average looking guys. These girls are already validated daily by their looks, so there is no need to seek validation in their mate as well. They pick the guy that they actually like, not one that looks good (prompting many “I don’t believe she’s with him” remarks from other jealous men). The mediocre girl is stuck in a society where her looks are judged more than anything else, leaving her with no choice but to live in other people’s eyes, not her own. But one should not have sympathy for the female mediocre lot: they should get their standards in line with reality and choose a mate whose looks is as average as hers.

125 thoughts on “WHY MEDIOCRE WOMEN DESIRE HOT MEN

  1. holiday

    This is slightly controversial, but my male friend commented that it is easier to hook up with a less attractive girl, because she will expect less out of the relationship. She’s just excited to be with a hot guy and knows she isn’t really getting anything more. A girl that is pretty, knows her worth and will demand the attention.

  2. Larissa

    Interesting observation. I actually have friends who have admitted to ‘dating down’ — i.e. dating guys they feel are less attractive than them — so they can be more confident/in control of the relationship. Me? I look for some one of equal smarts and looks 🙂

  3. chicgirl

    i find this goes for mediocre men also. i seem to get all the newly single men chatting with me about their dating lives (as I am eternally single for some reason – perhaps I am medicore – haha:)
    The men point out these women they are going for and I scratch my head? They are drop dead beauties and I know they are out of the their (the guys) league. He is usually oblivious….

  4. Admirer

    So Mr. Bachelor, what you are trying to say is that yoiu are the one dating hot girls. That makes you….Mediocre? Interesting, I love how men find ways to make themselves feel better. hm.

  5. V

    Interesting post, it makes me think of two references:
    Neil LaBute’s play “Fat Pig,” which is about a fat girl dating an attractive guy and how they/their friends “deal” with it (playing in DC now at Studio Theater)

    And, Jimmy Soul’s classic lyris: “If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife, So for my personal point of view, Get an ugly girl to marry you”

  6. bettyjoan

    VERY interesting post, and quite true. The boy and I were discussing the other day how you rarely see hot guys with average/ugly girls on TV, but you always see hot girls with average/ugly guys. Seems to be true in “real life” as well. I like to call this phenomenon “punting beyond one’s coverage.” 🙂

  7. Eugenius

    Its all about notches….at times having an ugly notch is forgettable but doable…….its true though, a hot girlfriend/wife/significant other is a headache for the rest of your life…..but fuck it we all know we are willing to live with that headache….

  8. Whatever

    As you approach 30, how someone looks is not nearly as important as it was when you were say 21. Every hot guy I have ever dated was a jerk or a player. I will certainly take a less attractive guy who is intelligent and knows how to treat a woman well over a hot guy thesedays.

  9. nabeel

    so… what about the hot guy who happens to be a gentleman who knows how to treat the ladies right? 😉

  10. Berry-licious

    Had this convo with a friend on Saturday. Our conclusion was that guys are shallow and although girls can be picky about a guys looks she date someone more mediocure because he has a better personality, conversation skills, etc.
    You’re a little off base with the theory that mediocure girls only want hot guys that they can show off to their friends. She’ll make them more jealous by telling them what a great guy he is, how nice he is to her, sweet things he does, etc.

  11. Sally

    Women want hot men because they have the physical features that suggest they have the best genes (for survival) to pass down to offspring. However, some women prefer a rich man instead of a hot man, because they value financial security over physically genetic superiority. Men, on the other hand, are biologically programmed to spread their seed far and wide to ensure survivial of their genes. It’s all scientific and stuff.

  12. Anonymous

    You my man — might have the funniest freakin blog on the internet. I got every body reading your daily storied down here in sunny Tampa, Florida where meat heads rule the roost.

    How about some more top 10 lists.? That top 10 dating tips for women, might be the funniest thing I have read in a long time.

    the #8 or whatever

    “Stroke, don’t tug or pull, it’s not a doorknob” has to the be the funniest, most true thing I have ever read.

    Keep up the good work

    -A fan in Tampa.

  13. The Blonde

    A friend of mine used to say that the happiest couples are the ones where the female is more attractive than the male. The girl feels superior–like she is in control, while the male worships the female. BUT if the male is more attractive, the woman is constantly feeling inferior, constantly doubting the male, untrusting of their partner, and generally lacking in self-confidence. The “less attractive” female will always think their partner is cheating. And they most likely will. Because both of them are aren’t satisfied with the relationship.

    I think there of course exceptions to this case; my WoW-playing boyfriend who I considered more attractive than me (while others thought WTF, why was I with him?!) was the most one of my most miserable relationships. But I think that had a lot to do with that WoW and Age of Wonders habit.

  14. Stephen

    Sorry Blonde, but that’s a load of bull.

    Show me a couple where the male worships the female, and I’ll show you a breakup a few months down the road.

    And Vice-Versa.

    I’m a fairly good looking fellow, and take pride in being in shape. I’ve dated really hot women, and grew tired of it. So many of them are used to being pandered to, and so many of them have bad habits because no man had a the gall to tell them to shut up. Not all, there are always exceptions.

    But in the end, what a man who is a man really wants is a woman who is good in bed, easy on the eyes, gives him peace and quiet, doesn’t bitch, and knows Sunday is football day.

  15. Anonymous

    “But in the end, what a man who is a man really wants is a woman who is good in bed, easy on the eyes, gives him peace and quiet, doesn?t bitch, and knows Sunday is football day.”

    The best summary I have read of the male perspective in years !

  16. Aja

    This is all too subjective to discuss! What I may consider “hot” may not be what DCB sees as a good loking male, because “hotness” could be personality based. Sure I can check out a guy and basket him into “drop dead”, “doable”, “potential” and “hell to the no”. but in the end, who i apporach will be based on conversation and not looks, does this make me a mediocre/hot girl is there an in between and also as women get older, there is a shift in the “top five” a man must have and his looks maybe number two to his humor, intelligence, dick size, etc. This theory doesn’t make sense from a woman’s perspective, but may hold some truth for men, you have been purely physical concerning your taste in women according to your posts. Also, date a hot woman and you will always be happy to have on your arm, but insecure as well because you will always be afraid to losing her to someone hotter (though she maynot be about looks, but you are not ready to accept that truth).

  17. yarrrr

    I was an ok-to-cute-if-I’m-your-type guy and in my 20s I always had hot girls even though i had neither money nor cars… because there are a lot of hot but mentally ill girls out there, all it took was to know what buttons to push.

    Doesn’t work now that I’m older, though. Crazy hot chicks just aren’t around in the older age brackets – I guess they’re either all dead or locked up.

  18. T

    On the Today Show this morning there was a segment about the new trend of Geeks/Nerds and the amount of play they are recieving from beautiful women. The show, “Beauty and the Geek” was also highlighted to further explain the reasoning behind this new trend. Women enjoy the fact that geeks/nerds are not so caught up in their own appearances and actually appreciate the women they are with. They are attentive and respectful while the more attractive men (who are used to women throwing themselves at them) are not. It’s mere psychology, really.

    What gets me though, are these mediocre men who act like hot men. I guess some guys get confused…

    As far as mediocre women going for hot guys, I don’t really know if that’s true. A mediocre looking woman knows she is mediocre and wouldn’t go for a hot guy b/c she would feel insecure the whole time they are dating. It would be like dating suicide!! She would constantly be worried about her hot friends stealing him, him cheating, etc. etc. I agree with Berry-licious in that a woman will make other woman more jealous by talking about the sweet things her man is doing for her ( roses, romantic dinners, cuddling, being attentive) than by his looks. Woman are not as visual as men, remember? So he’s hot and treating you like crap? No one will be jealous about that.

    Men, on the other hand, are visual. We know this. They will date a retard as long as she’s hot. As they get older, this view changes somewhat, but in the end, they would prefer a hot woman than an intelligent one anyday.

    Men should fear the hot intelligent woman. They are a force to be reckoned with….

  19. Chase

    I think this post is clearly written from the standpoint of a boy and not a man. A man will truly appreciate a woman for all her assets…not just her looks. Yes, I believe that everyone wants someone attractive, but not everyone has the same standards.
    I think as you mature and experience life, you come to the conclusion that looks are NOT everything. You want someone that enhances your life on all levels, not just someone that looks good. Real men and women want more depth in their relationships. Anyone who says they would rather have a hot guy/girl instead of a fulfilling relationship is in denial. (Not to say that attractive people can’t have deep relationships.)
    Who are you to judge someone else’s relationship? Especially since you are not in one. I think your post is full of assumptions about how a woman or man feel in their relationships. How do you know that attractive man with the average woman was not the one pursuing her? How do you know she is constantly judging herself? How do you know an average woman wants a “hot” guy just to feel better about herself and to make her friends jealous? You don’t. Unless their is a caste system that I am unaware of…anyone can date whomever they please. I think it is toxic to look down on other people. Are you so superior to judge others? Perhaps the “hot” guy was attracted to the “average” woman because he finds her attractive and she is confident to know that she can get whomever she wants. And those men who don’t want to date her because they think she is “average”, well, she doesn’t care.
    Try being original, DCB. I doubt everyone would consider all the women you have dated attractive.

  20. Cock Diesel

    “I noticed that her huge sausage fingers were hiding his hand in a socially unacceptable display of love.”

    Laughing so hard my stomach hurts!

  21. Joe

    I just don’t understand how you can say you’ve never seen a “hot” guy with a mediocre girl, and then turn around and say all these mediocre girls want hot men.

    The truth is, I’ve never lived in a place where you see as many hot guys with average-looking girls as the greater DC area (except maybe for NYC). There is something about these NE cities where the whole power dynamic bewteen the sexes is skewed so that every plain Jane is constantly on the prowl for the hottest men, and they actually score ’em and date ’em.

    I lived in metropolitan DC (Alexandria and Arlington) for 9 freakin’ years, and I worked mostly on the Hill. I know the DC area, and the DC area is diametrically different from my hometown of Vegas (where I have moved back to)… here, it’s just the opposite… mediocre and ugly guys with hot chicks everywhere (and I DON’T mean mediocre, ugly middle-aged “swinger” in sports cars or ugly senior citizens in walkers who play slots all day… I mean college student age, 20s, and 30s!)

    So I really don’t understand what you’re talking about… it seems like a lot of compensation and denial. I’m what girls call “cute” looking, and even a lawyer, but at 5’8″, I was considered “too short” by most head-in-the-clouds Hill bitches who wanted every guy they dated to look like a 25 year-old version of Gary Hart, and be 6’2″.

    DC Bachelor, huh? I know a lot of “perpetual bachelors” in the greater DC area who are there to pursue careers, and are in great jobs, but just can’t get a date because they aren’t an Ashton Kutcher lookalike. Conversely, I knew many young, white women who were players and secretly dated 3-5 guys at a time (like Washingtonienne did). The Washingtonienne (minus the cash left on the kitchen counter) scenario was actually the NORM in the crowd I hung with there… Women had their pick, men were the groveling, neurotic desperados.

    If you want a breath of fresh air, all I can say is, come to Vegas and open your eyes!

  22. Robert

    dude you kick so much ass, This blod could not be any truer. However as i find myself reading I also found myself re-evaluating my relationship. Girls just need to stop bitching, and know that everything is not always about them.

  23. Steve

    This is not true, this is too stereotypical. Some hot girls want to be with hotter guys, because they like the attention, more the better.

    Some hot girls like to be with not so hot guy, because they don’t need too much attention.

    Some hot girls like to be with ugly guy, because he know how to take care of her or rich or smart.

    All my girlfriends are hot, I am above average looking guy. I have seen so many hot girls that I know how to handle them, experience is a important. So go out there, get rejected get slap get laugh at, your balls will grew bigger and one day you are just going to be… god

  24. vargas

    I’ll bet you’re ugly as all get out, huh sweetheart?

    Bet you wish you were hot. Hahahahhaha!

  25. hedonistic

    Sheesh. Everyone wants to date someone hot. We all love to look at pretty people and give them stuff.

    The most gorgeous men I’ve ever known were sort of odd-looking when I first met them. Funny thing is, the more I got to know them, the better looking they got! Beauty is in the facial expression, not the face! :love:

  26. Anonymous

    bullseye? more like bull****…. why should women put up with mediocre men. Damn straight I want a hot guy…and I am FAR from mediocre, baby!

  27. Edi

    Important is to find the trick how u will going to be “hot” Doesn?t matter if the girl is fat or not.
    Ye is true that usually u see ugly guys with beautiful girls. This happened coz girls doesn’t care only about the look, but also for the soul, and now days I haven?t seen a ugly girl. All the girls are beautiful.

  28. Anonymous

    It’s sooo unfair, hot guys have ugly girlfriends and hot chicks have ugly boyfriends.
    It’s sooo weird.
    If anyone would like to tell me why this is!!!

  29. spankington

    Wow! interesting comments. I have pondered most of the themes presented here a lot. It seems from my personal point of view, and I don’t know, maybe I’m just fvcked because I’m only 5’4′ that most attractive women (including mildly attractive) fall into three major catagories: intelligent dragonlady bitch, mentally ill I’ll date anyone with a good pot connection bitch and lastly, I’m hot and stupid but I still won’t go out with you bitch.

    Where’s the fvcking happy medium. Yes I do see guys who don’t have two nickles to rub together who look like they took a shovel to the face and they have the hot chick. But…where’s the happy medium.

  30. Anonymous

    Science has already answered this question. Women are not attracted to physical beauty. Women are attracted to power, and social status. This can take many forms (not just money), such as populartiy, a cool job, a guitar player, etc., etc. Next time you talk to the model who is telling you how “sweet” her beast is, just dig a little deeper and I guarantee you will find some kind of theme on his side. Men are simply attracted to physical beauty and youth. All this is in mother natures grand scheme and its worked this way since the beginning of time. The only thing that I do not understand is why women deny it to themselves. And for the women who say “oh not me, I’m different”, remember I’m talking about women who truly have options, the real lookers.

  31. Daisy

    However shallow you are directly relates to the quality of life that you live. Looks are temporary, whether they are good or bad. A guy could find the prettiest girl in the world, but what happens if she’s in an accident and is permanently scarred, or something similar happens? Is she a worthless human being then? If that’s how a man (or woman, it makes no difference) judges other people, then they should expect no mercy in return. Treat others and look at them the way you would want to be looked at.

  32. Anonymous

    Science doesn’t define a person. If it did, there would be no point in anyone making choices of their own. Science is not an excuse to hide behind.

  33. thejock

    When I was in high school, I slept with alot of hot broads. I remember one girl in particular who wouldn’t give me any play whatsoever. She was a solid “9” and was the smart, artsy type. Her boyfriend was this geeky guy that looked like a mixture between Steve Urkel and Steve Harvey! However, what’s funny is that she worshipped the ground homeboy walked on! Him and I were friends so he would tell me all of their business and how freaky she was in the bedroom. So one day I asked her, “How come you’re not attracted to me, the way you are to Reggie?” She told me that she wanted to be with someone who made her feel appreciated and respected, and that the way he treated her made her like his looks even more. Therefore, I guess what I am saying is that its all about the depth of the girl’s character. If she’s very pretty, she knows that she is and doesn’t need to be with a “super-stud” to feel validated.

  34. Anonymous

    I’m not sure about this theory. I’m quite mediocre and I’ve always dated mediocre men and although I have been attracted to “hot” men, I’ve always just seen them as things to look at. All of my friends agree that “hot” men are something to be looked at and not date.

  35. AussieGirl

    I have been searching the net trying to find a piece on Men who seek validation of their manhood from women… Because I require some answers .. Maybe you all can help ?? I consider myself to be very down to earth and am (apparently according to others) very attractive (Im not modest though) I dated a guy for a year who was average looking but of very superior intelligence sometimes to the point of eccentricity in his behaviours and thought patterns. I found him interesting thus my reason for dating him. Major problem we had (so I discovered) was that the whole time we dated he was sending “kisses/winks” etc to other women on an online dating site. He would constantly flirt with women, get their phone numbers, meet with them, make friends ..(justified as finding people interesting and wanting to know more about them) go out with his friend and practice technique’s on picking up women and the list goes on… He was never unfaithful until the end of our relationship when I was over all his excuses and turning off him. He also has a long history of flirting with his friends girlfriends and ex’s and “cutting the grass” (so to speak) of his friends when they met girls (thus he has hardly any male friends) Amd he is subscribed to this thing called “Mystery Method” which is all about impressing women. His only male friend told me that he thinks he constantly requires validation from women that he is a “Man” and that women find him attractive. Am I wrong to think he is extremely insecure in himself and maybe his behaviour stems from a childhood of being outcast as a brainy nerd ? Or could this really be him being interested in Social Behaviour (as he tells me) Am I a fool ? I am trying to understand as I did love him and it saddens me that he behaves like this when he had a perfectly loving and accepting woman by his side who he says “he will always love”… how can you behave like that when you love someone ?

    I need some outside opinions …..

  36. Anonymous

    He’s insecure, and terminally selfish and self-centered, AussieGirl. He doesn’t even respect his male friends, so he doesn’t have any. Don’t torture yourself over this guy. The only person he loves is himself.

  37. BR

    Indeed I’ve found the author’s observations to be very true. I’ve also observed at least a number of mediocre girls who will in fact reject a man who they find either more attractive than they, or who they percieve to be better, or more talented than they are, especially a man that can communicate well both in speech and/or express himself well in writing. However, these girls, as I’ve noticed, tend to be on the higher-end of mediocre. I shall continue to observe these phenomena and learn more.

  38. BR

    I should amend my last entry. Most of these higher-end mediocre women I’ve seen, usually have a lower educational level. Maybe they have a chip on their shoulder or something? Maybe they’re jealous types?

  39. jonathan

    bueno starcraft me parece nice!y soy uno de los grandes viciosos que juegan esto pero es realmente bueno!!!

  40. Anonymous

    hello? every single chick flick/chick lit book stars an average looking girl with a rich, good looking guy.

    example? bridget jones’ diary. average to decent looking woman who is overweight who has TWO wealthy, good lookin men chasing her. It is the same way in every female oriented show. Look at Desperate Housewives.

    Or the Devil Wears Prada– average looking chick- Anne Hathaway with good looking guy. How did that happen?

    So it’s like not the king of queens, the world according to jim & everybody loves raymond doesn’t happen in reverse!

  41. Anonymous

    ””T says,
    6 months, 4 weeks ago
    On the Today Show this morning there was a segment about the new trend of Geeks/Nerds and the amount of play they are recieving from beautiful women. The show, ?Beauty and the Geek? was also highlighted to further explain the reasoning behind this new trend. Women enjoy the fact that geeks/nerds are not so caught up in their own appearances and actually appreciate the women they are with. They are attentive and respectful while the more attractive men (who are used to women throwing themselves at them) are not. It?s mere psychology, really.

    What gets me though, are these mediocre men who act like hot men. I guess some guys get confused?

    As far as mediocre women going for hot guys, I don?t really know if that?s true. A mediocre looking woman knows she is mediocre and wouldn?t go for a hot guy b/c she would feel insecure the whole time they are dating. It would be like dating suicide!! She would constantly be worried about her hot friends stealing him, him cheating, etc. etc. I agree with Berry-licious in that a woman will make other woman more jealous by talking about the sweet things her man is doing for her ( roses, romantic dinners, cuddling, being attentive) than by his looks. Woman are not as visual as men, remember? So he?s hot and treating you like crap? No one will be jealous about that.

    Men, on the other hand, are visual. We know this. They will date a retard as long as she?s hot. As they get older, this view changes somewhat, but in the end, they would prefer a hot woman than an intelligent one anyday.

    Men should fear the hot intelligent woman. They are a force to be reckoned with?. ””

    this is the biggest load of crap ive ever seen, sorry. in this case, ‘hot’ is your perspective, so if you think mediocre guys are acting like hot guys, its probably cause they ARE hot guys that you dont find hot.

    idiot.

  42. jabba

    ””T says,
    6 months, 4 weeks ago
    On the Today Show this morning there was a segment about the new trend of Geeks/Nerds and the amount of play they are recieving from beautiful women. The show, ?Beauty and the Geek? was also highlighted to further explain the reasoning behind this new trend. Women enjoy the fact that geeks/nerds are not so caught up in their own appearances and actually appreciate the women they are with. They are attentive and respectful while the more attractive men (who are used to women throwing themselves at them) are not. It?s mere psychology, really.

    What gets me though, are these mediocre men who act like hot men. I guess some guys get confused?

    As far as mediocre women going for hot guys, I don?t really know if that?s true. A mediocre looking woman knows she is mediocre and wouldn?t go for a hot guy b/c she would feel insecure the whole time they are dating. It would be like dating suicide!! She would constantly be worried about her hot friends stealing him, him cheating, etc. etc. I agree with Berry-licious in that a woman will make other woman more jealous by talking about the sweet things her man is doing for her ( roses, romantic dinners, cuddling, being attentive) than by his looks. Woman are not as visual as men, remember? So he?s hot and treating you like crap? No one will be jealous about that.

    Men, on the other hand, are visual. We know this. They will date a retard as long as she?s hot. As they get older, this view changes somewhat, but in the end, they would prefer a hot woman than an intelligent one anyday.

    Men should fear the hot intelligent woman. They are a force to be reckoned with?. ””

    this is the biggest load of crap ive ever seen, sorry. in this case, ‘hot’ is your perspective, so if you think mediocre guys are acting like hot guys, its probably cause they ARE hot guys that you dont find hot.

    idiot.

  43. Leon

    i think you’l find most western women are self absorbed, not thinking about thier own flaws the the extent that they assume men must be doing everything wrong.

    this isnt helped by media that serves only to reinforce the idea that girls, especially good looking girls, are always right.

    if you want a good girl, one who isnt self absorbed or an idiot, you’re going to have to search for a loooong time. When you find her, your going to have to work hard, and maybe you’l find you have to improve yourself in order to get her, this goes way beyond looks.

    the perfect girl is good looking, enjoys cooking, loves sex and her man. the end.

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