I was at the bookstore mooching the other week when a man sat at my table. I realized I was wearing my company’s logo t-shirt after he asked about my job. We had similar backgrounds and had a pleasant conversation about our fields of work.
Yesterday I was mooching in a comfortable chair by the travel section. I noticed an older woman searching for Italy books. If she was a little younger, the conversation between us would have been automatic and natural.
When a girl is talking to a guy in a bar, the main thing that piques her interest is his initial vibe and look. It’s okay for her if the commonalities come later. But often they don’t. The burst of energy that starts this new relationship quickly fades as the couple realizes that don’t have much in common other than physical attraction. And the girl wonders what is wrong with her.
I don’t remember the last time I talked to a girl who had a love for travel. No girl has probed me to go deeper and explain my experiences in Italy, for example. Telling them that the espresso is great is the limit to which they care. Wouldn’t it be nice if I met a girl who went to Italy (or is going to Italy), and was eager to hear the whole experience, including details that a girl in a bar may find boring?
How about if there was a service that put you at a specific table in a bookstore with someone else who was reading a similarly themed book? Even if these two random people weren’t physically attracted to each other, imagine the conversation that would take place – in a relaxed setting of coffee and raspberry bars. I’d be the first person to sign up.