One of the tests I do when talking to a girl in a club is completely shutup about 3-5 minutes into our conversation. I want to see if she’s capable of keeping it going on her own because experience tells me that dates with girls who can’t are usually boring.
So I’m talking to a girl, telling her how I’m a cool guy since I shower daily, and then suddenly I go silent. I just stare at her, like a kitty cat but a lot tougher. Half of the girls will go silent themselves and gradually turn towards their friends. They stand around and give you the chance to start it up again for a minute or two, but will give up on you if you don’t. They will definitely be receptive if you resume conversation, but why should you? The object of the test is to screen out these girls.
The other half start asking you questions. I swear to god they must get all their questions from a lame web site because it’s the same shit all the time: “Where do you live?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”, and of course the “Do you come here often?” The other night a girl asked me if I was a United States citizen. :huh:
The second half get points for effort so I help them out and get it going again, but seriously, what’s with the closed-ended questions? The first thing a pimp learns is to ask OPEN-ENDED questions. It’s really not a hard concept, even asking “What is your favorite kind of music?” will go much farther then asking me if I’m a naturalized citizen or not. About 2% of the time you will get a winner on your hands, a girl who can hold a conversation, take it in interesting directions, and stimulate you at the same time (i.e. give you an erection). Unfortunately these girls are pretty rare.
People will generally think that girls are awesome at conversation because they are able to talk so much. But this is only with people they know, not with strangers. A real test of your conversational skills is being able to connect with someone who has a different background you have. I don’t go to a yuppie club and talk about European culture, I talk about my ambition and I how I paid full price for my New Balance sneakers.