Going out to parties or clubs is starting to get replaced by Movie Nights with the Girls. I?m starting to get all these ?girl power? e-mails containing stories with the under lying message that It?s OK to be Single! It?s like they?re giving up. I suspect the fact that we?re all hovering so close to 30 is part of the problem.
When I first started talking about spinsters about a year ago, the hate directed to me was quite numerous and hateful. But lately I’m noticing that many people, even women, are starting to agree with me. I think it is because of two reasons: 1) the spinster term is more accepted into mainstream culture, and 2) anyone who goes out on weekends can see with the phenomenon unfold with their own eyes.
I want to quote two comments. The first explains something that I personally see “in the field”….
Now they are turning 30 and they are alone and the same bullshit games they have been playing since they were 20 are not working any more. Most men there age have either been burned once or twice by girls like this and no better, are not interested because they can get younger better looking girls, or finally they know how to get a one night stand out of them and then move on without dealing with the headgames. more
The next one should be the comment of the fucking year. Women should read it very carefully…
This reminds me of a woman I met at the Reef a few months ago. Exceptionally well educated, very professional, great sense of humor (as evidenced by how much me and my wing teased her and how she laughed right along and gave us funny comebacks). She was single, she seemed a bit down, and her friend confided in me that she was frustrated by her inability to get a boyfriend. I tried to help her out by looking over the room at the men and seeing if we couldn?t pick one out who we could get to come talk to her. Nope, she told me, she had already looked them over and there wasn?t a single man who interested her. Must have been 50 men in that room at least, yet not one was good enough based on appearance and style.
You might think this is fine, she is a discriminating woman who demands the best. And that is fine. Except that looks-wise she was a 5 on a scale on 1 to 10 (which means a 3 on DCB?s scale). She was pretty plain looking, her style was fairly dowdy, and she needed to lose 15-20 pounds or so. Her expectations for the types of men she should be dating were utterly unrealistic.
The most attractive, most successful men want attractive upbeat women. They don?t want depressed, average looking women. DCB says this repeatedly and the commenters always hate on him for being shallow. Meanwhile, the 30 year olds who don?t take care of themseleves or give off a depressed vibe only make things worse. Ladies, listen to DCB.
What’s unfortunate is that this woman will never find a husband, because each year she holds out for that perfect man is another year where her looks will fade, her energy will be sapped, her fertility will decrease, and her health will deteriorate. What worthy man would want that? It’s a vicious cycle.
FDDC: Pity Party